Coping with the inevitability of death.

How do you do it?

I think about it all the time and my stomach gets tied up and I feel like throwing up. It's not coping, I just can't deal with thinking about it.

Death, i find, is one of those things thats better to joke about, than take too seriously.
if you worry about it, then when time comes, you'll be too worried trying to think of all the things you didnt do, shouldve done differently, and wished you couldve done. its better to live your life, not worrying about death, that way when you come to die, you can say "well, i lived a full life" in your last moments.

sure theres also the unexpected accidents where people die, but ive heard that they're so spontaneous, that you dont even know they happen... for what good that even is.

You're what, in your 20's? Why in the hell are you even thinking about death?

When it happens, it'll happen. No need to twiddle your thumbs, waiting or thinking about it.

Here's what I honestly think: When I'm dead, I'll worry about being dead. While I'm alive, I'll worry about being alive.

You're what, in your 20's? Why in the hell are you even thinking about death?

some of us might have an interest in philosophy, and death is a really big thing to think about.
like the saying goes, only two things in this life are guaranteed: taxes and death. knowing that its something you cant escape from really puts some constraints. yeah its better to live carefree and not worry about it, but its also a good idea to try and come to terms with the eventuality of it.

Well, death is like another rite of passage for us. We learned to crawl, we learned to walk, we learned to run etc.

We dont tend to fear death, but we fear the unknown after death and the "loss" of what we have. Death signify giving up all we have in this world, and some arnt just ready to do so.

The way I deal with death is I "make peace" with it. It is totally out of my power to prevent death from ever happen to me, so I'll not bother trying for immortality.

Can't say I really care too much about it. I can't see myself being old though. If it comes, I rather it comes before I become a fossil. The subject of death never bothered me, even as a kid. If it comes tomorrow, it comes tomorrow, whatever. Live life as you want now. Worrying too much about the future will just stress you out.

Ive been thinking about the subject of Death since i was very very young. How to cope with it....i dont know. Like you said, thinking about it makes my stomach ache.
I think for the most part, the issue i have is, i dont want to die for no reason. If i die protecting someone then thats the way i would want to go out. I dont think i would ever want to die in.. some freak accident or from being sick.
I dont think there is a way to cope with death, you just have to wait until it happens to figure out how to cope with it.

OH i realized the protection thing... My house got broken into when i was a kid and it scared the pomegranate out of me.

I'm really excited about dying. I'm actually looking forward to it. If it's today, tomorrow, or next week. All these responsibilities such as managing bills, handling stress, and always trying to improve on my mistakes is a constantly uphill battle. To draw a comparison it feels like I'm Sisyphus and I'm chained to this giant ball of stress that constantly gets bigger and bigger only reach the personal peak of my limitations and for all that to come crashing down. Then it is not my choice, but my obligation to reclaim that ball and to slowly try climbing back up the hill again. Why? It was futile the first time. It was always futile. Is it to attain a bigger house, a better internet connection, a faster computer? The only reason why I need such luxuries is to mitigate the stress given to me by jobs that will require intense mental calculation and for me to always work quickly and on my toes. I don't understand what in this world is supposed to be great or amazing or develop a strong lingering attachment. Is it the crime, the corruption, or the blatant lies that we tell one another to cover our shame or the mistakes that we've made in the past? As humans it's almost impossible for us to empathize with one another. Sure we can sympathize but there is a fine line between pity and sympathy. The largest form of relief is knowing that there will be an end. When you die you'll never have the chance to compromise your moral values in order to get ahead in life, try different stressful career paths, and have to deal with incompetence. Death is the greatest prize for people who don't feel like they fit in or are always depressed. For a person who is wallowing in his own misery, they want to be told to go kill themself. Because if you told them to fix X, solve Y, or try Z this is stressful and a pain. If you selfishly kill yourself, then you don't have to worry about X, Y, or Z. It's paradise.

^That was very depressing.

I remember when I was about 7 or 8 I was laying in bed and I just started thinking about everything (life, the universe, space, who I am/why I exist, death) and when it came to death I just started hysterically crying. It seems like such a waste in a way, that everything has to and will end so abruptly. I am more afraid of dying in a painful way than just death in general. Dying through some sort of accident or by drowning etc still freaks me out because I always see stories on the news about how someone was murdered or how someone died in a work accident, and I just think "damn, that could have been me".

Despite this, you have to accept it. You won't achieve anything just mulling over the fact that it's so awful that death exists but you will gain some peace of mind if you accept that it is an inevitability and that it isn't just something you alone will have to experience. Think of how long the planet has existed, all the billions of creatures that have died. Death is just a way of being one with everything else that was. All I want in life is to be able to have done something or made some sort of mark that has affected someone other than myself. I can't stand the thought of life being so linear. Just remind yourself that you're not the only person that has to go through death and that you shouldn't be concerned with it. If all you do is concentrate on it, it'll consume you and you'll have wasted the opportunity to truly live.

..that sounded very dramatic.

Just imagine death being the same as being unborn, and AFAIK, that wasn't such a bad time right?

And about the moment of death itself, it's closest to falling asleep. The brain just fades out...

Don't worry too much about it m8, when it comes, it comes... just live life to the max while you're still alive!

I just tend to not think about it. There's other things to worry about then death which would probably come in a long time.

[COLOR="Magenta"]I just try to live every day to the fullest, enjoying and savoring every moment of it.
I take it day by day.So I'm really distracted in what I'm doing, and tend not to think about myself dying, (though I'm convinced I won't make it past 30).[/COLOR]

I never really think about it. Sure time flies by, but I'm not gonna waste it thinking 'I'm gonna die' I'd rather enjoy what I have. :f6:

When I was younger, I remember hearing my dad talking to one of his friends about death. After hearing about it, I cried myself to sleep, though he never knew about it. Of course, I was 5 at the time. When I was around my teenage years, I often thought about suicide, though I was foolish at the time. Later in my young adult years, I stopped caring because I want to enjoy life. Why worry about death? If it comes, it comes.

I know people around me that dies. I often get pretty depressive to hear that a fellow classmate or friend dying if I know them fairly well, but they're still remembered, though it isn't always permanent, people will remember. It's not one's death that matters though, it's their achievements before their deaths. So I don't really have to worry about my own. If I drive home drunk one night and die, so be it. If I die due to an illness, so be it. If I died because I was old, so be it, but I'm glad to know that I've met so many people and that I've achieved countless things while failing on countless things as well. Enjoy what you have in life.

I guess I am kinda in agreement with Swerve. I look forward to death, though I can't seem to be able to take my own life. Death is inevitable, so why should I fret over it, anyways? It isn't like I lie to myself and tell myself there is a "better place" to come. I don't really have anything spectacular to look forward to either way - alive or dead. Why should it matter whether I am alive or dead?

Also, I guess I am a bit weird when it comes to the death of others. Obviously, when someone close dies people are deeply saddened at what happened. However, in my experience it barely affected me at all. A few years back, my brother committed suicide and I have yet to really even feel true sadness over it. Yes, he was my brother. Yes, I enjoyed his company. Does being sad that he died help anything? No. Recently my grandfather died of lung cancer. I still haven't really felt anything over that.

Eh, I don't know.

Life scares me more than death does. I can't speak for every one else, but the prospect of growing up is truly scary to me. Jobs, responsibility, stress...just all scares me shitless.

Life scares me more than death does. I can't speak for every one else, but the prospect of growing up is truly scary to me. Jobs, responsibility, stress...just all scares me shitless.

Heh I know what you mean there. Bleh.

How do you do it?

Well, it's more normal to be dead than alive...

I kindof look forward to it - not in a depressed, morbid sense, but in a sense that I'm really fucking curious what happens next. It's like the back of a book - you can't wait to get there, but you don't want to just jump to it and miss all the inbetween either. When you finally get there, you feel really sad that the adventure's over, but also have an overwhelming sense of closure, that ok, you're finally done, you can rest now.