2011-05-21, 08:43 AM
After reading this I am forced into the conclusion, that social ingraining is powerful stuff.
Whatever the reason is behind this fictional but nevertheless real situation, I was curious to see your answers, and it didn't get far from what I expected. That men can mess around, be a playboy, he'll simply be labeled as such, but no one really cares, where as when the situation is reversed, its the end of the world for her.
Yes, sure, you don't have feelings. People do over complicate things with useless emotions, but alas, we are only human.
And how is that supposed to be different from "love"? Love is supposed to be attraction to the person you have the feeling for, and infatuated is an attraction also.
If she did, how does that change your perspective?
Finally, someone who throws away whats ingrained into our minds by society and gets down to the center of the matter.
Do you always know what you want with things?
I am really liking your generalising there. It is sometimes reversed... don't you know that?
What crime?
Are you two still together?
Whatever the reason is behind this fictional but nevertheless real situation, I was curious to see your answers, and it didn't get far from what I expected. That men can mess around, be a playboy, he'll simply be labeled as such, but no one really cares, where as when the situation is reversed, its the end of the world for her.
Tykian Wrote:Love is a useless emotion developed by the flaw of the human brain to bring some "beauty" to our survival instinct. We mate to pro-create and pass on our genes. It has been our instinct by which we've survived for thousands of years. Human's tend to over-complicate things with useless emotions.
Yes, sure, you don't have feelings. People do over complicate things with useless emotions, but alas, we are only human.
Sarah Wrote:But in response to the question I would suggest that the person claiming they're in love is probably confusing it with infatuation.
And how is that supposed to be different from "love"? Love is supposed to be attraction to the person you have the feeling for, and infatuated is an attraction also.
Khoi Wrote:Changing the context and situation around a bit. What if she had sex with the 2nd guy?
If she did, how does that change your perspective?
Eosian Wrote:Feelings are not a finite thing you have x amount to give. They're also not rational and can't be expected to live up to whatever arbitrary laws you whimsically declare they should. If it were that simple there wouldn't be any form of diversity, any unrequited loves, any homosexuality or variation.
Eosian Wrote:Agreed. I just don't like the instant verdict of 'shes a slut' without even the remotest bit of context.
Being a slut requires acting, not feeling.
Finally, someone who throws away whats ingrained into our minds by society and gets down to the center of the matter.
OB3LISK Wrote:Imo peach doesn't know what she wants don't bother with her.
Do you always know what you want with things?
thinbear Wrote:depends on cases... i guess...
but generally I don't like girls holding 1+ relationships for getting more $$;
I also don't like guys have 1+ relationships for more sex partner(s)
I am really liking your generalising there. It is sometimes reversed... don't you know that?
Kalovale Wrote:I don't think anyone is in any guilt until the crime has been committed.
What crime?
Born2BeMild Wrote:Hey! I went through this kind of situation. I was the first guy.
I was later told by her that she feels for me more and again many other times.
I would say that woman in your question doesn't know what she is doing/thinking.
Are you two still together?