How to ask a girl out?

First, what I said had nothing to do with any previous issues I had with you

K.

As for manipulation, the essence of the word is to exploit something in your favor in attempt to get what you want. Relationships revolve around choice and compromise, not working things to your advantage.

If you bothered reading what I said, I said he could manipulate his peers. I didn't say he should manipulate his girlfriend. Also, I said that "I believe that a relationship really is about the other person, not about you."

Second, my advice was meant to encourage him to not push things too fast or too far, and had nothing to do with letting things happen on their own. If you read, you'd see that I advised to spend time with her, and to let that time shape how their friendship or relationship might develop in the future.

Spend time with her. Yes, while that leads to friendship, it's merely chance that such a friendship would grow into love.

Let's say you're just a normal person. Undoubtedly, you will have friends, many of which are girls. Now how many of those girls love you (as in true intimate love, not love as in "since you're my friend I must love you")? Some of them? A fraction of them? One?

Essentially, it boils down to chance and if it does happen, then he would have spent so much more unnecessary effort than had he just asked her out properly the first time.