2014-03-12, 01:36 AM
I love how relationship advice is heavily polarized. On one end people regret not asking someone out, on the other end people regret the bad relationship they had with someone else.
Your personality must be a wonderful thing to have if you don't regret what you lost in order to have the mindset you have today.
Spinning around a regret doesn't mean you never had that regret in the first place or that you don't hold a regret with respect to the moment. Having regrets can be a powerful emotional stimulus for good or for bad. People are too quick to write off their mistakes and look at things optimistically rather than to adopt a realistic mentality of the situation. "Your own inaction shaped who you are today" is a laughable concept. If you attribute the day to accomplishing nothing then you incurred a net loss with respect to your human capital. Aging makes you less appealing to the job market and also brings health problems that will require maintenance and other considerations in the future. The economic ramification is that inflation is going to rise 3% annually and not to mention that the world just inched a bit closer to a net loss in natural resource capital because it was moving ahead while you did nothing. Arable land was reduced in order for a new road to be paved, a new residential lot to be added to a developing suburbia, and liters of water have been contaminated radioactively or chemically from industry run off. Not only does cost of life get expensive as days progress, but the quality of life itself will likely be reduced as industry comes to rely on genetic modification, pesticides, and pollution in order to meet the status quo of their current business models. It's hard, so hard, to try to spin it differently.
With respect to relationships, they are hit and miss. However, I could never personally find them engaging when the way the job market is moving is for individuals to have highly polished qualities and talent that requires a huge time investment that tends to be detracted by being in a relationship with someone else who might or might not stick with you in the long run. Not to mention the fact that everything is just more expensive than it used to be. To consume gas, consume food, and take her to a movie or somewhere else in addition to the planning you have to do out of schedule when you could have been working could run up a bill you could have spent just buying a hand held or possibly a home console. It's hard for me to come to terms with wining and dining someone else, when often times I'm barely making ends meet by myself.
And then I realized a great opportunity I could have here. Oh boy.
I would tell myself to not go into life science: biology, chemistry, biochemistry, or any of it. There's no money in life science unless you choose to specialize. And at the end of four more years of supplemental schooling I became jaded enough with the system to find out that my classes were primarily just there to discourage people from advancing their future in the field of study. Other people who have studied life science should be able to relate to what I'm getting across here that the norm student in a science major isn't someone who gets deeply passionate out of nowhere and starts gushing about isotopes or the newest method of sampling DNA. The textbook method of delivery is dry and doesn't encourage an open engagement to the learning process. You are expected to do a lot of learning on your own, however the independent method of study isn't what is rewarded in the paper tests and laboratory protocol.
If the professor highlights something, you memorize it. If the professor shows you something specific in class, you learn it. There are five classes with fix textbooks that are around 800+ pages each and you need to go through around 75 pages a day of each subject in a week for each class meaning you roughly go through around 375 pages of text-based learning in a week if you have the time to cover everything in addition to recapping lecture, lecture notes, test banks, and other resources just to score well on the paper test. Your professors actually don't expect you to read the entire textbook nor do they think you're interested in actually reading it. It is also highly questionable whether they even enjoy teaching or care if their knowledge is being disseminated in the best way possible v. the most efficient way possible through a large body of students. Once you finish a body of information, you can forget it or discard most of it rather than trying to draw from it again. It won't help you advance and is usually recapped in the next class.
Entry level jobs are hard to get and also pay is scaled by contracting companies to be set around $15-$20 an hour meaning your net income when you get out is going to be roughly $40,000-$50,000 if you get into a major company. Opportunities to move up are allowed, but depending on industry it can be highly volatile. If you are doing a research on a drug and running sample tests, once that drug goes through clinical testing it's questionable whether you are even needed. Once the drug has been developed you could be out, once your phase of drug testing is done you could be out, once the drug has passed and marketed you could be out. The job market is a lot like studying. Get what you need, then get out. However, with that type of mentality you could have developed a skill set in a different area like computer science or business that will have a much higher initial pay out for the bachelor's degree in science if you had a high affinity for the material. In other words, for life science the market just generally sucks if you're fresh off the boat. I will say that STEM scholarships are fantastic, but you can still get that through engineering, mathematics, computer science.
Aubog007 Wrote:This would be my second answer to the question. I never regret anything that has happened in my life, for each thing that has happened shaped me, built me, all the experiences make me who I am today, for better or for worse, and if i change one thing, i would be gambling with my own personality.
Your personality must be a wonderful thing to have if you don't regret what you lost in order to have the mindset you have today.
Aubog Wrote:The thing to take from this is... Don't ever live a life of regrets, if you regret something, spin that thought around, turn it into a positive. Instead of "Damn, i should have asked that chick out," think about it, would she have been nothing more than just cheap thrills? A powerful romance? Your own inaction shaped who you are today. Think about it.
Spinning around a regret doesn't mean you never had that regret in the first place or that you don't hold a regret with respect to the moment. Having regrets can be a powerful emotional stimulus for good or for bad. People are too quick to write off their mistakes and look at things optimistically rather than to adopt a realistic mentality of the situation. "Your own inaction shaped who you are today" is a laughable concept. If you attribute the day to accomplishing nothing then you incurred a net loss with respect to your human capital. Aging makes you less appealing to the job market and also brings health problems that will require maintenance and other considerations in the future. The economic ramification is that inflation is going to rise 3% annually and not to mention that the world just inched a bit closer to a net loss in natural resource capital because it was moving ahead while you did nothing. Arable land was reduced in order for a new road to be paved, a new residential lot to be added to a developing suburbia, and liters of water have been contaminated radioactively or chemically from industry run off. Not only does cost of life get expensive as days progress, but the quality of life itself will likely be reduced as industry comes to rely on genetic modification, pesticides, and pollution in order to meet the status quo of their current business models. It's hard, so hard, to try to spin it differently.
With respect to relationships, they are hit and miss. However, I could never personally find them engaging when the way the job market is moving is for individuals to have highly polished qualities and talent that requires a huge time investment that tends to be detracted by being in a relationship with someone else who might or might not stick with you in the long run. Not to mention the fact that everything is just more expensive than it used to be. To consume gas, consume food, and take her to a movie or somewhere else in addition to the planning you have to do out of schedule when you could have been working could run up a bill you could have spent just buying a hand held or possibly a home console. It's hard for me to come to terms with wining and dining someone else, when often times I'm barely making ends meet by myself.
And then I realized a great opportunity I could have here. Oh boy.
I would tell myself to not go into life science: biology, chemistry, biochemistry, or any of it. There's no money in life science unless you choose to specialize. And at the end of four more years of supplemental schooling I became jaded enough with the system to find out that my classes were primarily just there to discourage people from advancing their future in the field of study. Other people who have studied life science should be able to relate to what I'm getting across here that the norm student in a science major isn't someone who gets deeply passionate out of nowhere and starts gushing about isotopes or the newest method of sampling DNA. The textbook method of delivery is dry and doesn't encourage an open engagement to the learning process. You are expected to do a lot of learning on your own, however the independent method of study isn't what is rewarded in the paper tests and laboratory protocol.
If the professor highlights something, you memorize it. If the professor shows you something specific in class, you learn it. There are five classes with fix textbooks that are around 800+ pages each and you need to go through around 75 pages a day of each subject in a week for each class meaning you roughly go through around 375 pages of text-based learning in a week if you have the time to cover everything in addition to recapping lecture, lecture notes, test banks, and other resources just to score well on the paper test. Your professors actually don't expect you to read the entire textbook nor do they think you're interested in actually reading it. It is also highly questionable whether they even enjoy teaching or care if their knowledge is being disseminated in the best way possible v. the most efficient way possible through a large body of students. Once you finish a body of information, you can forget it or discard most of it rather than trying to draw from it again. It won't help you advance and is usually recapped in the next class.
Entry level jobs are hard to get and also pay is scaled by contracting companies to be set around $15-$20 an hour meaning your net income when you get out is going to be roughly $40,000-$50,000 if you get into a major company. Opportunities to move up are allowed, but depending on industry it can be highly volatile. If you are doing a research on a drug and running sample tests, once that drug goes through clinical testing it's questionable whether you are even needed. Once the drug has been developed you could be out, once your phase of drug testing is done you could be out, once the drug has passed and marketed you could be out. The job market is a lot like studying. Get what you need, then get out. However, with that type of mentality you could have developed a skill set in a different area like computer science or business that will have a much higher initial pay out for the bachelor's degree in science if you had a high affinity for the material. In other words, for life science the market just generally sucks if you're fresh off the boat. I will say that STEM scholarships are fantastic, but you can still get that through engineering, mathematics, computer science.